Saturday was one of those rare days when I felt relatively “normal.” Before you jump to conclusions, I know the concept of “normal” is highly subjective. To narrow it down, to a gender dysphoric person normality is being able to navigate society without being stared at or unnecessarily being singled out.
To arrive at the point I achieved yesterday, first I had to feel secure in the way I looked. I wore a pair of my favorite leggings, boots and a nice sweater. I felt the outfit was slimming and showed off my legs. Also, I was able to mousse my hair Friday night after my shower, enhancing my wavy hair. All in all, for once I felt I made the most of what I had to work with.
As far as makeup went, the less is more look worked well without my glasses. And, while I am on the subject of makeup, Friday night when Liz and I went out with the cross dresser – transgender group, another trans woman asked me if Liz did my makeup? I was stunned. I have always done my own makeup. I know too, sometimes it looks like it. Despite being a “natural” lesser makeup person, Liz used to be an Avon beauty consultant. So she does know enough to tell me if I look like a clown. Overall, my goal is to externally project as a “lipstick” trans-lesbian. Hows that for putting a label on everything?
As the evening progressed, we stopped for dinner at an upscale Creole Restaurant we have been meaning to try out for quite a while. All the cooking is done from scratch by a chef trained in New Orleans by Emeril Lagasse. The food was great and we were served by a woman who seemed only concerned about overselling us on appetizers and drinks. One way or another, It’s always nice not to be noticed.
From there, our Witches Ball group was meeting for coffee at the coffee chain Connie hates…I will let you use your imagination. It’s always good to get together with these friends who accept me for me.
So, all in all, the day was a reaffirming day as far as my gender dysphoria went.
I wait for it to go away all together but so far it shows no sign of leaving anytime soon.