Green Power

Long ago when I first started down the long feminine path to living full time, I learned many of the retail clerks I interacted with didn’t care I was cross dressed, only that I had money. 

Little did I know, way back then, I was touching the basics of an up and coming LGBTQ economic force.

Yesterday, I received an email from Elouise alerting me to an article called “The SMB Guide to Success in the LGBTQ Market. 

I call it the “Anti” Chick fil a/Hobby Lobby post. Two decidedly anti LGBTQ companies. Here is the beginning of the article from  Website Planet:

“If you own or manage a small or medium-sized business (SMB), this article is for you. With less resources to play around with, SMBs must pull on all available resources to effectively work with and market to a wide customer base focused on interests, not social demographics.

That’s why SMBs must begin building strategies to effectively market to and work in an LGBTQ-affirming world.

The LGBTQ market is one of the fastest-growing sectors out there, and it’s becoming an increasingly valuable customer base across all industries. In fact, according to GayStar News, a conservative estimate on the size of the global LGBTQ market is $3.7 trillion – that’s a huge market that could be left out of your customer base unless you take the right steps. This community is also particularly sensitive to social issues.”

This is a very good in depth piece,  if you would like to read it follow the link above!

Top 20 LGBTQ+

Out Magazine” has published an article I thought you may be interested in…the 20 LGBTQ+ People Who Changed the World. Quite a few of them perhaps you have heard of, others not so much. 

Each one though, shares a top spot and a thank you for helping our lives along to be just a little bit better. They also provide banners of inspiration to help us along in the difficult years to come.  

It’s not a surprise, but the “uber” talented “Laverne Cox”leads the list.

Laverne Cox

Follow the link above for more!

Busy Weekend

The Memorial Day Weekend is turning out to be busier than I expected. First of all, since I am a transgender veteran, I am very cognizant of the fact the weekend is much more than a three day holiday. I will have more on that in my Cyrsti’s Condo Memorial day post.

In the meantime, Liz and I are joining friends tonight at the usual Italian restaurant we go to on a regular basis. Then, Sunday morning, we are joining my daughter’s family for breakfast. It turns out my oldest Grandson is heading out to North Dakota to be a Boy Scout lifeguard for the summer.  So it will be the last time we will see him for awhile. 

He seems to break the mold of the usual teen aged boy who only wants to set around and play games. 

The weather has all of the sudden caught up to the fact it is almost June and we are experiencing temperatures near 90 degrees (F). The weather will give me an excuse to wear my other new sleeveless tank top. The ombre’ top I wore to graduation can’t be worn again in front of the same people, so I may wear it tonight with a pair of leggings. For a whole different group of people.  Then I could wear the other top Sunday, which is a gray color with an geometric black pattern. 

Monday we are saving to cookout here at the home front…just ourselves. 

Transgender Veteran!

Avalisa Gallo served four years in the Air Force before leaving the military to complete her MtF gender transition.

Now, she is the first transgender Nebraskan to compete for a national pageant crown. The pageant she is competing in is called the  All-American Goddess. It’s the  first pageant system to allow all types of transgender men and women to compete nationally. 

“People don’t see me as a woman, that’s the issue,” said Gallo. “In Omaha, there’s not a lot of trans women of color that are out and being visible and that’s because its not safe.”

She’s since been advocating for transgender rights. She reads to children in the community focusing on the book, ‘I am Jazz,’ a story about a transgender girl. She also has a video blog where she opens up about her journey.


Good luck Avalisa!

In Between Post

As I wrote about previously here in Cyrsti’s Condo, I am right in the middle of a very busy week. Yesterday, I had a therapist appointment, one Doctor’s appointment and a support group meeting.

All went well and I even was able to negotiate the eighty mile return rush hour trip through two cities which included being stopped for at least ten miles in more stop than go traffic.

Other than that, the only perceived problem I had was my hair. I washed it the day before and didn’t bother to brush it out enough before I left. Then, I forgot my brush and had no way to get my waves back under control. Needless to say, I survived.

My therapist appointment went as predicted. We always end up talking more about other things than about me. Which, I guess is a good thing. Fortunately, right now, my demons aren’t chasing me as much as they did in the past. The Doctor’s appointment had as much to do with it as anything. She prescribes the meds I take to control my bi-polar disorder.

The LGBT support group meeting was interesting as always. A very unique small group of people attended. Including a transgender woman formerly from Alabama who served on a submarine. One trans person of color, a retired ally cis man and a couple gender fluid folks. Really different than the cross dresser – transgender support group meetings I attend here in Cincinnati.

The in between part of this post comes with the fact I am attending my Grand-daughters graduation tonight again up in the Dayton, Ohio area. In order to pull this off with only one car, we had to rent one (car) for the trip.

I think I have a pretty nice outfit picked out with my long black embroidered skirt paired with an embroidered boho style sleeveless top and my fancy black flats. Due to a total lack of decision making with the family groups involved, we are all supposed to meet a couple hours early for tailgate eats before the actual graduation.

Due to my excessive HRT hormones, I probably will do my share of crying :).

My Transgender Reality

First of all, I would like to thank Charlotte for her comment to a Cyrsti’s Condo post from last May. The comment was why don’t I just kill myself. The quick answer is I tried that once and happily I failed.

My reality these days revolves basically around my family. And, to a lesser extent the public’s perception of me  Examples include a forthcoming trip Wednesday to my grand-daughter’s graduation.  Then yesterday we went to a new deli we haven’t been to before. Not much happened except one of the younger guys couldn’t quite seemed to keep his eyes off of me. I can never tell if he was fascinated by me, or managed to figure out I was transgender.

As I have been told a couple times in my life, it isn’t all about me. So, I try to keep that in mind also.

It’s interesting too, since Liz (my partner) has lost nearly 120 pounds, her reality has changed also. She has explained to me she still is a heavy over weight person in her mind and it is hard to shake.  I am sure in the dark recesses of my mind, I will always be fearful of presenting as a guy in a dress. 

Digging deeper, my latest paranoia revolves around an unanswered phone call I received from my endocrinologist. Now I am worried she is going to want to play around with my estradiol (estrogen)dosage.  My reality is I have grown so used to the changes in my body, I don’t want to go back. She, My Doc, has already decreased my “Spriro”  which was prescribed to decrease my testosterone. She cut my dosage due to my potassium being too high.

One way or another, I will follow her advice.

Regardless of Charlotte’s advice, I don’t want to kill myself.

It’s my reality!

Happy “Mother’s Day”

Or should I say, Happy Parent’s Day?

For most of transgender people, it is a bittersweet day. A remembrance of un-accepting children. For others it is simply an uneasy adjustment to the new you. And, if you are very fortunate, it is time for you to be remembered as a parent. A role model for children to be themselves…no matter what.

As most of you already know, I list myself as a very fortunate transgender woman. My daughter is very accepting and I have made my piece with my un-accepting Mother.

For the rest of you, I will only say be patient with your loved ones. Hopefully, they will come around eventually.

Every year I hope this post finds more of you in the accepting category. For those of you still in the closet, the problem is trying to figure out ahead of time who will accept you and who won’t. Most of the time, it is impossible to predict.

In the meantime, I hope you all enjoy “Parent’s Day!”

Ladies

Today (Saturday) was typically martial arts day for Liz and an afternoon of running errands for both of us. 

Something must have gone right for me today since the closeted cross dresser was even semi civil to me. The hour class went by in a hurry and I caught up on my busy work on my phone. I am trying to connect a guy working on LGBT history in Dayton, Ohio with Columbus, Ohio trans historian J.M. Ellison to see if they have anything in common. In addition the guy in Dayton was asking if I have anything to add. I really don’t think I do because I didn’t actually live in Dayton (just close to it) and so really didn’t know much about the LGBT scene there.

The grocery store was predictably bland except for one possible other transgender woman I see there often. I was waiting at the bank for Liz to open a savings account and only was able to see her (the trans woman) at a distance. 

Seemingly, it took forever for the banking transaction to be completed, so I spent my time reading a Cincinnati Magazine detailing the booming local/world food scene. About the time I was getting very restless, Liz and the bank manager emerged and the manager (also a woman) said “You ladies have a good afternoon.” 

Her statement was enough to erase any restlessness and propelled me on to the rest of my afternoon. 

The day will continue on until tonight when we are invited again to dinner with a couple of our cross dresser acquaintances.It should be interesting, as always!

Break Down

Connie kindly read the lengthy article I spotlighted here in Cyrsti’s Condo about the ridiculous transgender military ban. You can see the post here. Here is her (Connie’s) take:

“Let me first make it clear that I think this ban is ridiculous, and unconstitutional, as well. Bravo for these women’s efforts!

The part of the story that really intrigues me is this part:

“She’s worried about people who are only just realizing they’re transgender. Hendrick came out at 46 years old and hadn’t known of a trans person other than on television before 2014. She said one of her clients realized they were trans after seeing congressional testimony from a trans military member.

“When I realized what was going on with me, I was like ‘I have to transition now, even if it ruins my career. I’ve been alive for 46 years and I have not experienced life as who I truly am. I need to do this,’” Hendrick said.

I realize that my gender identity and dysphoria are mine, and mine alone. I can’t expect that every other trans person has had the same experiences. However, it’s difficult for me to believe that one goes through life, especially into middle-age, unaware of their own dysphoria – let alone never seeing some sort of similarity between themselves and trans people they have seen on TV. I also understand denial, but you can’t deny something unless you’ve first recognized it.

I can only take her (Hendrick’s) statement as her own truth. When I was 46, I was hiding in the closet, having lived with my dysphoria since early childhood. While she made a complete transition (physically, anyway) in just two years, I was still hiding myself in the closet at 48. In fact, it was another ten years before I could decide that I had to live the rest of my life as a woman. 

I certainly don’t advocate following my path to transition, but, even had I not been the procrastinator that I am, I don’t think I could have made such a drastic change in only two years’ time. Although I don’t believe in all the “rapid onset” nonsense, this case seems just about as rapid as it could be.

As I said, intriguing.”


Thanks!