Pose

 The television drama “Pose” has been around for awhile now. In fact it just premiered it’s third season.

Here is a look at the show from Google :

“Set in the 1980s, `Pose’ is a dance musical that explores the juxtaposition of several segments of life and society in New York: the ball culture world, the rise of the luxury Trump-era universe, and the downtown social and literary scene. Blanca forms a `house’, a self-selected family that provides

 support to LGBTQ youth who have been rejected by their birth families. Damon is a dancer who joins Blanca’s house. Together, they compete in the balls — where house members challenge each other in various categories and are judged on their outfits, attitude, or dance skills — against Blanca’s former house mother, Elektra. Pray Tell is Godfather to the children who compete in the balls. Angel is a streetwalker who develops feelings for a new client, Stan, who has a loving wife, Patty. James Van Der Beek co-stars as Stan’s boss, “

Of interest to us is the fact the show is produced by transgender icon “Janet Mock” (top image) and features several transgender actors.Β 

I watched it for the first time recently and was fascinated. Even by the reproductions of the New York drag balls. I have never been to anything close to a drag ball but have been to several fairly good sized parties which featured many drag queens. I remember the energy was palpable. 

One of my favorite characters is played byΒ Indya MooreΒ (above) who identifies as transgender and non binary. Preferred pronouns are “she/her” and “they/them”.Β 

The show is on Sunday nights at 10pm EDT around here and airs on the “FX” network. I’m sure it’s available on a streaming service too.

The “Passing” Game

If you follow American professional football at all, you probably have heard of the frustrations over the years from the hapless Cincinnati Bengals. This year, once we drafted Joe Burrow our passing game dramatically improved until he suffered a major injury and is out for the remainder of the year. In other words, their “passing game” went away.

The same can happen to transgender women as they work their way through life. Early in my life, as a prolific cross dresser, I had various levels of success and failure when it came to my appearance. When I came out as a transgender woman in my sixties, I relied on any natural success I acquired cross dressing along with the changes brought along by hormone replacement therapy to mostly succeed at presenting as a transgender woman.  

Along the way, I received several comments on the passing post. Ironically, the last thing I wanted to do was try to fish for compliments on whether I passed or not. At this point in my life I am way past all of that. If I can’t get by in the world the way I am now, I never will.

As a change of pace in this post, I have decided to pass (no pun intended) along a couple comments.

The first is from Connie:

”  Gee, the way you started this post, I thought you were referring to a Hail Mary Pass. πŸ˜‰ Self-deprecation does not become you, sweety.
If one looks at passing as a last-ditch effort or a win/lose proposition, it rarely works out favorably. Desperation is more telling than one’s actual physical presentation. In continuing the football metaphor, I am a Seahawk fan who has learned that attempting to force a pass (as in a certain now-infamous Superbowl play) can lead to disaster. :-)”
If you don’t know, the Seahawks were basically on the goal line attempting to score the winning touchdown with time running out. They pulled a Bengals and tried a pass which was intercepted in the end zone as time ran out. No “passing privilege” for them!
And now, here is another comment from Emma Gray:
“I love your self-description of yourself: “a woman of transgender experience.” I use that a lot for myself too.
As for “passing”: I know it’s the common lingo and although I’ve tried I haven’t come up with an alternative. The thing is, I don’t care for that word because it implies that I’m like a secret agent, passing within society for something I am not. I thus worry that it could reinforce unsupportive cis people’s ignorance. Anyway…

I also like Rachell Brindell’s quote. I’ve wondered that myself, for me, but especially for trans children who are increasingly being raised with pubertal hormone treatment that supports their authentic gender. So, they won’t be identified as trans until and unless they disclose. I suppose there will always be post-pubertal transitioners so we won’t disappear per se.

Then again, it seems to me that gay people are not nearly as identifiable as they were in the 70s and 80s when they needed to establish pride, self-esteem, and community identification.

The worst situation IMHO is for non-binary (NB) people. My therapist is AFAB NB. Visibly feminine, they are consistently triggered by well-meaning people using the wrong pronouns and gender for them. And there’s nothing they can do. Should they where a sign? I certainly don’t think so as it brings the Nazi treatment of Jews to mind.

Anyway, being identified as a woman without qualifying adjectives is delightful isn’t it!”
It is indeed! I look at it as a payback for the years of harassment I went through! Thank you all.