Recently, I have been reading the posts on Paula’s Placeand Femulate basically concerning wearing high heels and dressing up with no place to go during the pandemic shutdown.
I literally have not had to worry about wearing heels for years because my feet and ankles are in such bad shape from pounding concrete floors during my thirty plus years as a restaurant manager. The last time I can remember wearing heels was six or so years ago when Liz and I went to one of the witches’ balls which used to be a regular date for us. It turned out to be agony until I could slip out of my shoes into my nylon covered feet. Also I have a pair of two inch high heeled boots I wore one night…again years ago.
The whole experience was ill advised as it was a wet evening and I ended up being seated with Liz at a big table in a winery with several wires from the band I had to negotiate when I got up and went to the restroom. To add insult to injury (almost) my heels took my height to well over six feet, so it seemed the whole room was staring as I walked through. I did make it without bodily injury and decided since everyone was seemingly noticing me, I would stand up as straight and proud as I could. To this day, I am surprised I didn’t slip and embarrass myself.
Not surprisingly, both Paula and Stana (of Femulate) have written in depth on the effects of how their Mothers’ fashions influenced their own. Age has dimmed my thoughts on the subject considerably but I do remember my Mom being in dresses most of the time since she was a high school teacher. Plus, of course, I must have been fascinated at some point by her makeup, since I couldn’t wait to try it on me too.
Speaking of makeup and getting dressed up, I must be slipping in Liz’s eyes. In fact she has even volunteered to do my makeup and hair someday when we can go out again.
I guess the “Covid Slippage” may actually be getting to me more than I thought.
At least I am looking forward to receiving my second vaccine the second week of March. While I am not naïve enough to think life will return to some sort of normalcy, anything coming close will be appreciated!
While transgender woman Hunter Schafer’s only acting credit to date is on the HBO series Euphoria, it’s an important one. The character has been praised for being one of the few transgender actors on television to not be depicted as struggling with their identity. Her role showed that a trans person can be seen simply as a person on a show – being trans doesn’t have to define them.
Schafer has modeled as well for a number of top brands, from Dior to Calvin Klein and Vera Wang, and continues her work as an activist for the LGBTQ+ community,
Munroe Bergdorf is an English model and activist. She has walked several catwalks for brands including Gypsy Sport at both London and NYC Fashion Weeks. Bergdorf was the first transgender model in the UK for L’Oréal, but was dropped within weeks after a racial row. Wikipedia
Isis King, the first transgender woman to compete on “America’s Next Top Model,” has been making inroads since her groundbreaking appearance on the show, most recently appearing in an episode of HBO’s “Equal.” Her picture is below:
Easily one of the most talked about models of 2019, Brazilian-born Valentina Sampaio made history as Victoria’s Secret’s first-ever transgender model. Victoria’s Secret aside, the 23-year-old has quite the CV, having previously been a spokeswoman for L’Oréal and appeared on the covers of ELLE U.S., Vanity Fair Italia and Vogue Brasil.
“Along with being a pioneering model, Leyna Bloom is an actress, dancer and activist for both the LGBTQI+ and black communities. Her modelling career started in 2014, and by 2017, she was one of the few openly transgender models in the industry, walking at New York Fashion Week. In the same year she also became the first openly transgender model of color to appear in editorial for Vogue India. Adding to her collection of ‘firsts’, in May 2019, her feature film debut in Port Authority at Cannes Film Festival marked the first time a trans woman of color held a leading role in a movie featured at a major film festival.”
Connie referred to the previous post here in Cyrsti’s Condo called “Faking it till you make it.” as “Shake and bake.”
The reference aptly describes many of my early attempts into the feminine world which were mostly unsuccessful. My wife was convinced I dressed too slutty and she was right. I was stuck in the concept that revealing clothes validated my femininity when truthfully my choice of outfits was doing exactly the opposite.
In essence my skirts were too short or tight and I was having a difficult time adjusting to what my feminine image should be. Looking back now, I feel as if I could come up with a reasonable fashion statement if I stayed in the professional fashion image. I owned a black jump suit I loved and wore repeatedly to upscale shopping malls in the area complete with my black heels and long honey blond wig. The problem I began to run into was when I began to encounter the same people over and over again, I needed other outfits to wear. I remember vividly several outfits I managed to come up despite rigid budget constraints which fit the late 1980’s and 1990’s fashion scene. Since for the most part, big hair was in, my wigs fit right in as did my shorter skirts if I wore them with flats or low heels. Also there was quite a bit of Demin and Boho influence in the 1990’s which I loved. Check out the picture below.
With all of that, I still couldn’t fulfill my wife’s standards of how she thought I should look. In my defense, she was a very natural person and didn’t wear much make up at all. Every now and then though she would still consent to going to a nearby town to go out and eat. To dress to her standards would have been difficult for me. So being the determined person I was (and am) I did the best I could to wear what I wanted. So in her eye’s I was still a “shake and bake” person.
As with any transgender woman or man and/or cross dresser, we are all survivors. So if we are faking it or baking it, we find a way to get by.
I read lots of books, from mythology retellings to literary fiction and I love to reread books from childhood, this is a place to voice my thoughts for fun. I also like to ramble about things such as art or nature every now and again.