Pride month for the LGBT community should be a year around celebration. Once you reach the certain point of your life when you are comfortable as your authentic gender self, it’s time to celebrate yourself. In other words the tipping point of having total confidence in yourself. Confidence of course was the topic of a recent blog post which Paula commented on:
” Confidence is key. It took me a while to inhabit the world confidently as a woman of mature years. We missed out on a lot of the learning process, we had to compress so much into such a short time. But now, I find that I have the confidence to do things I would not have before, because I am not just confident in my femininity, but in myself. ”
As always Paula, thanks for the relevant comment.
Pride can be expressed in many different ways. You don’t have to go watch garishly dressed drag queens strut around in heels to participate in Pride. As you can see in the first picture of me at a pre-Covid Pride along the Ohio River in Cincinnati, Ohio.
You can dress in your favorite jeans or leggings depending on the season or you can be the occasional cross dresser in your local bar. The important part is you are living your life as you feel natural doing.
I know also, many of you think you are impossibly stuck in your transgender/cross dresser closet and will never escape. There was a time when I felt that too. I was just able somehow escape the tragic situation I was in and sheer destiny led me out of my closet and into a feminine world.
I will say though I had to work very hard to put myself in a position for destiny to find me. I searched high and low on dating sites looking for someone. Either male or female to spend social time with and was a miserable failure. My Pride comes from from finally being persistent enough to find friends such as Kim and Nikki who I met in sports bar venues and had a great time. All the while I was learning valuable lessons on how to navigate a feminine world. Then there was Liz who responded to a online dating site, saying I had sad eyes.
Along the way, being a partier didn’t hurt me when I did attend various Pride events as you can see in the second picture which was taken in a very busy gay venue in downtown Cincinnati several years ago.
To make a long story/post short, have Pride in your journey. Even though it may consist of being able to exist in a very dark closet.
You deserve it.