Another Cyrsti’s Condo reader I have been in contact with over the years wrote in and commented on her feelings about applying makeup. Her name is Mandy and she lives on the East coast of the United States. Over the years she had been able to survive balancing her life in a feminine world along with living with a spouse and having young grand children.
In the comment (thanks), she said she viewed the whole process as applying a mask. Admittingly I think she is right in many ways. I know back in the day when I first started experimenting with basic makeup skills it was a process. Something I had seen my own Mom do so effortlessly with her own makeup proved to be so difficult. Of course there are no pictures but I am sure “clown like” would be applicable.
Still I endured, bought my own makeup and embarked on a process of improving my makeup skills. Slowly but surely I was able to improve my “masking” skills.
When you think about it, all women (cis or transgender) use makeup as a mask. These days, much to the chagrin of many transgender and/or crossdressers, women have moved to a more natural look. Which means much less makeup. I noticed an example as another much younger woman stood in line ahead of me at the dentists’ office. She was wearing very little makeup except mascara and perhaps lip gloss. Of course with her youthful flawless complexion she didn’t need any mask. Her whole demeanor screamed female. I was envious in that I had to put much more work into my feminine presentation.
Unknown to me however was what kind of skin care routine she used. I am fortunate in that I was able to “sneak” in my own personal skin care routine. The act of shaving probably provided me the greatest benefit when I was able to exfoliate old skin cells and replace them with new ones. Then I was able to convince my wife I needed a moisturizer to help me with razor burn. In fact, one of the biggest recommendations I can make to novice transgender – cross dressers is take care of your skin. The second is watch your weight. It is a real possibility you will be able to present better as your feminine self if you follow those rules. Your “mask” will come along with practice.
These days locating help with your mask is easier to find. If you live near big urban areas at all, makeup specialty stores often are happy to help you with tips. There is so much to consider with contouring and color.
I was fortunate enough also to be able to undertake hormone replacement therapy, which really helped to smooth out and soften my skin. Plus age alone aided my transition. I was of the age where the binary genders have a tendency to blur.
Whatever your case , I hope you can adapt to wearing a makeup mask and it helps you lead a quality life. If not, remember it’s a marathon not a sprint. Just keep working and don’t get discouraged.