I am sorry it has taken me so long to respond to several comments on my “Passing” post as well as others. I simply have been to busy this week to contribute much to Cyrsti’s Condo. So, in no particular order, here are several of the comments. Tomorrow I will add more.
Ironically, Georgette commented she was surprised by the lack of response:
“I was hoping to have some others comment on your reflections.
Back in the Dark Ages, The other TW I knew were much older than me, Age 23-27 vice their 50s-60s, Had never knowing any TM,
I can’t recall we called it Passing but was learning to just Blend in with other women in our age groups, Couldn’t really go stealth as my entire family has accepted me, And where I transitioned at the same place of work,
To go wherever women would be and see what they were wearing and how they conducted themselves,
I guess for me as a youngish woman I did have the advantage of youth,
For those older TW they just settled into a more comfortable look, Nowadays I see so many late-in-life still want to look like those younger women, I keep my opinions to myself as most don’t want advice just affirmation, I have been blocked or un-friended when giving some advice/criticism, Even here on Medium I was blocked with no reason given.
When I decided to come back out to this new LGBT+ world, I looked at a lot of women in their 60s and decided I didn’t want to look like them, My style is a more comfortable woman but still not ready to give up on being attractive, Most times people don’t believe me when I give my age as 71.
But sometimes I wonder if going back to be mostly stealth would be easier, In the General non-LGBT+ world I am.”
Thanks for the comment. As you all can probably tell, the number of active commenters I get in relation to the overall number of hits I receive on the platforms I write on are in a small minority, which is fine. Back to the comment. Georgette, I am of the same age as you and do my best to dress to blend in with. Fortunately I lived through my attempts at not dressing age appropriate. On the other hand, I try to make sure my minimal make up is properly done and my hair is brushed. I think it is slightly humorous when my partner Liz always runs to put on makeup when I do when we go out. I tell her she wears makeup because she wants to and I wear it because I have to.
Also Georgette’s comment comes from the Medium writing platform I post to. I’m humbled and flattered to have received an award from them as being one of their top LGBTQ writers. If you are interested, go to Medium.com for details on their service.
As I wrote, there is much more to this post coming up from Connie, Paula, Emily and more. Thanks for your patience.