Connie sent me an email at Cyrstih@yahoo.com saying her comments to the blog were being rejected by Google. Since then, seemingly the problem has been corrected because her new comment came through just fine.
Also I received another comment through WordPress from Mark Earnest Johnson: “It is so much easier to open up anonymously, when the people reading your blog aren’t looking at you as you find the words and try to force them out, when you can’t see their expressions.
Introverts. We are the root of our problem. We want to be helped, loved even. But, we don’t want to be bothered with people, and there are times when we don’t even care if we are really understood and known.
Paying a therapist is like paying a plumber or painter, however. You are plunking down something for a particular service – to be listened to, heard, and counselled (given psychological treatment). When you don’t disclose fully, it’s like giving you doctor only part of the symptoms that forced you to make the medical appointment in the first place. If you feel you need to talk to a therapist for a particular reason, or reasons, the therapist should know exactly what those reasons are and what you really want to talk about. They need all the information they can get – and so do you.
As always, though, thank you for the insight and honesty.”
Thank you Mark. I always have thought personally I communicate more effectively with the written word than the spoken one.
And here is the new comment from Connie which just happened today: “I think, as with most things in life, you get out of it what you put into it. Part of a therapist’s training is in getting reluctant people to open up. Some are better at it than others. The rest of their job, with the goal of helping people deal with the core problem, cannot be effective without the initial “coming out” stage. All I ever needed was to realize that being trans was never my problem; other challenges were only exasperated by my trans status. Once I took the “fuck ’em if they can’t take a joke” attitude about being a transgender woman (not that it’s a joke to be trans, but it is full of many twists and irony), I was able to relax enough to work on the rest. I was diagnosed bipolar by one psychologist many years ago, but he was approaching it with the gender issue being the main problem. Well, being trans is NOT a problem that needs fixing. I do know, now, that the woman I am handles the ups and downs of my bipolar conditions much better than the man I tried to be was.”
Thanks Connie. My bi polar diagnosis was always treated as a separate entity, fortunately. I always thought it wouldn’t be but my current therapist has always treated me being transgender as a separate but equal issue.
As you can tell, comments make the blogging world easier to navigate when you attempt to write a daily blog. I really appreciate it!