Let’s be Careful Out There

This is actually a continuation of a post I wrote a couple days ago concerning losing one of our main male privileges’ when we transition to a feminine life. The privilege is personal security. It’s more or less a natural transition since so many cis women know of and have lived around male harassment their entire lives. 

Following the post, I received a couple of comments. The first is from Connie:

“You’re absolutely correct. We should never (short) skirt the issue of security. I’ve had my share of dicey moments, too. Fortunately, for both of us, we may have learned the hard way….but not the costly way. The closest to getting hurt I had was being sucker punched by a creep while I was stepping in to help some younger girls he was stalking late one night. I’ve reached the age where I’m not out late at night much; bedtime is 10:00 pm, usually. I also have slowed down, physically, so my confidence in being able to outrun an assailant has dropped considerably. I used to be a fast woman, but not a “fast” woman. Not that creepy men care what kind of woman I am, because they are just…uh…CREEPS. Watch out for them!”

Thanks for your unique perspective on a difficult problem.

The second comes from “Girlyboy”:

“Part of my own desire to transition is the desire to have the weakness you describe. Part of me wonders if that weakness that comes with a feminine body is not part of why society seems to hate trans MTF so much–that you would willingly give up power and physical strength must seem ludicrous to some…for me, feeling vulnerable is part of the goal.” 

Interesting comment. I think very early in my Mtf gender transition, I think I felt the same way because feeling vulnerable validated my femininity.  As I grew into my stronger transgender self, the potential violence all women are subjected to became more important to me and I began to be much more careful. 

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