The High Maintenance Gender

 As I began my transition years ago into a full time feminine world, I learned the hard way what I suspected all along. Being a woman would prove to be infinitely more difficult than I thought it would be.

 Most certainly in my cross dressing days, I did learn the basics of looking like a woman but as my wife always told me, I really didn’t know anything about being a woman. In fact, one of our fights ended up in her telling me I would make a terrible woman. She later went on to explain to me her statement had nothing to do with how I looked.

What she didn’t take into consideration was all the years I had studied all women so intently. Including the time I worked in a predominately woman dominated business. So all I had to do was to step up my game even farther. 

I am fond of pointing out my first  major learning experience in my male to female gender transition came as I learned how women communicate between themselves often by using visual cues more than the straight forward ones used by men. I tied my experiences in with a couple I already knew. Women operate on a passive aggressive basis and are more apt to form cliques rather than teams men form. 

The more I was able to get out and try to live a feminine life, I found out my wife was right and I changed.  To make matters worse, she passed away before she ever had a chance to see my transition.

So, applying the makeup and picking the perfect outfit is gratifying all the way to being fun, it is all still icing on the cake.

Being able to reinvent yourself as your authentic self is so deeply satisfying. Proving once again living the layered life of a woman proves you belong in the sandbox of the high maintenance gender. 


  1. Luke Atkins says:

    Best of luck with your transition! As a gay guy, I feel like most LGBTQ people could do a much better job of supporting transgender people and trans women who are oppressed by society, and I’m sure you’ll agree. Here’s to making the world a better place, one step at a time! And keep being an amazing, powerful, wonderful, feminine queen! ❤

  2. cyrsti says:

    Thanks so much for the comment Luke!
    I do agree the “T” in the “LGB” could use all the support we can get. I’m somewhat biased of course but I feel the world is slowly becoming a better place for us all.

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