Hey! Are You Transgender?

 I don’t ever try to hide the fact I am transgender. Very rarely is it a potential issue. 

On the other hand, I don’t often out myself either. I am far from the dating scene of my past so it also isn’t a major deal. My heart goes out to younger transgender women and men who have to negotiate the dating world. Ironically, it seems the better you present, the more difficulty you may have. Even to the point of placing yourself in danger if you are “discovered” by an unsuspected suitor. 

Last night though, I found myself in a situation I don’t think I have ever found myself in. Back in the day, I was always surrounded by my cis women friends so I had never found myself in a situation with a man where I was outed. As an aside, I didn’t ever feel as if I presented well enough to confuse the public totally on what gender I really was. I always assumed everyone knew I was trans and I was satisfied with all of that as long as I was treated with respect. 

For some reason last night, I went against my basic rule and accepted a friend request from a man. The reasons were  he was in a group I was in with similar political leanings and he was local. If worst came to worst I could always mention my very territorial partner of nine years or just block him. 

I didn’t have to do either last night. Interestingly, his first comment was he was surprised to learn I was a woman. Obviously, he had not read my profile…yet. Because after I answered with I was fine with his surprise. He came right back with how cool it was when he found out I was transgender. Followed with how good my picture looked.

Fortunately, a simple thank you from me and he was gone. 

The whole deal brought back so many memories plus a realization I was fortunate to be in a relationship with a partner who accepts me for who I am.


  1. mybookworld24 says:

    I get a lot of trans chasers and I just want to be loved 😦

    1. cyrsti says:

      I used to attract quite a few chasers also so I know what you are saying. I hope you are able to find love!

      1. mybookworld24 says:


  2. People just don’t read profiles anymore, after all the effort some of us put into it.

    1. cyrsti says:

      True! Thanks for the comment!

  3. My son is trans and it is great to read insight from others so that I can support him better. Thank you

    1. cyrsti says:

      It is always such an inspiration to hear from supportive parents such as you! Keep up the good work!

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