When the Norm Becomes the Norm

As transgender women and/or crossdressers, we spend much of our lives wondering how we ended up being a person who has such non normal urges. Or so we feel. I know I lived so many years wondering how I was the only one I knew who had the peculiar habit of wanting to cross dress in clothes of the opposite sex (women). Then, first I learned through magazines such as “Transvestia” which was started by “Virginia Prince” in the 1960’s and later through the internet, I was far from being alone.

However, the feelings of normalcy persisted. I finally learned no one was truly “normal” and I learned to embrace my true self. Last night, during another virtual meeting of the transgender/cross dresser support group I am part of, I found out once again how normal I wasn’t. Out of the ten or so attendees last night, I was the only one who made it to the point where I live full time as a transgender woman. Many of the others were really bemoaning the fact their weekend trips out as a cross dresser had been seriously curtailed, or stopped all together by the virus. I too, don’t like it but the fact remains I know what gender I am when I wake up in the morning. 

To look at the process from a different angle, let’s bring in Connie:

“I was reminded of Transgender Week of Awareness last Friday, when a local newscast mentioned it. At first, I thought it was funny to start a week on a Friday, but then I realized it is so that it would culminate on the third Friday of November – which is Transgender Day of Remembrance. I actually joked to my wife that it was a good thing for the news to remind me that I was trans, and needed to be made aware of it. Really, though, I don’t think there are any activities in Seattle until tomorrow – TDOR. That will be virtual this year.
By the way, about that joke I made to my wife: She said that she doesn’t think of me as trans very often, anymore. I guess that maybe one can be so aware that it just becomes the norm. As I like to say: When the extraordinary becomes ordinary, that is truly an extraordinary thing!”
Indeed Connie, it is an extraordinary thing. I’m sure the two of us are not the norm in finding spouses who accept us so totally. The norm becoming the norm is truly an extraordinary thing.

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