Last night was the monthly get together of the Rainbow Aging Alliance which was completed virtually of course. Nothing really unexpected happened except I was “volunteered” for a virtual Veterans outreach meeting in November. It was fine of course since I am a veteran myself. November is also the month for an “aging summit” hosted by the group which I am also very interested in. There is no word yet on how I could be involved.
Speaking of being involved, I am going to add in a comment from Connie on the “What Would the Neighbor’s Say” Cyrsti’s Condo post:
” I remember, all too well, the days (usually nights, under the cover of darkness) I’d have to plan some Mission Impossible episode just to not be detected by neighbors. For a while, that game was as much a part of my gender identity as the clothes I wore. There was some thrill to it, anyway. At some point, though, it became tiresome and felt dirty and dishonest to me. Shortly after my wife and I had come to our “great understanding,” I stopped hiding altogether. I even did some major work on the front of our house, exposing my feminine-self to anyone who walked by. One day, as my wife was walking down the stairs from our house, the neighbor across the street shouted out, asking her if it had been her sister working on the house! She replied that it was (deadname) he had seen, and told him my new name. He has called me Connie ever since.
What a relief and a great improvement to my mental health it was to come clean in my coming out. Caring too much about what others may have been thinking of me was definitely not taking too much care of myself.”
I can only say Wow! My wife would have divorced me before something similar to that would have happened. Looking back on it, it could have been the best thing for both of us. Which in all fairness to her, she said.
Thanks for the comment.