More Mr. Hart

I received a couple great comments on the “Mr. Hart” post. I you remember, the post basically was about the auto repair man who called me Mr. Hart on the phone and “sir” in person. The first came from Tiffawmy:  “ Hello Cyrsti
I’m sorry you had such a bad experience.
Do you think the guy was being vindictive or maybe he just didn’t know what to do.
Regardless, you persevered.
Next time give me a call. I still carry a set of jumper cables.”

Looking back, I don’t think he was being as vindictive as much as he was being tunnel visioned if that makes any sense. What I mean is, he had male in his mind from the beginning and nothing I could do changed it. Then again too, maybe he just didn’t want to deal with a woman anyhow. Thanks for the offer for the jumper cables. I too have a set around here, I my age you never know when you are going to need a jump! 🙂

And then, we heard from Connie: “Being called “sir” to your face definitely stings, and it’s difficult to not react in a negative fashion. Usually, though, the hurt makes one too upset to be able to react at all. The clever comeback may come to mind, but it’s most likely too late when it does. I’m fortunate in that it has happened to me so rarely, but the last time it did I think I came up with the right response. I said, “Why stand on formality? Call me Connie.” It got the point across, and it made me feel less of the sting because I had gained control of the situation. In your case, I’m pretty sure that would have worked better than calling him “Grease Monkey” in return (even if doing so might have brought some temporary satisfaction).”

I like the “name” reply and will have to try to remember it if something similar to this happens again. The truth is, it happens so very rarely, i am not prepared. As far as the car goes, in the future I will have to call the auto club again tn the future. In all fairness to them, I have never had a problem in the past. I have always been treated with respect. 

I have thought this through in depth of course and have come up with an idea my whole reaction to the whole situation may be part of my transgender PTSD which i will go into in a future post. 

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