Connie wrote in with more restroom hints:
“At our age, carrying a Tampon and offering it may be grounds for suspicion. Carrying and offering an incontinence pad may work, however. 🙂 Also, since – no matter how many surgeries we would get – we will still always have a prostate that is often affected by age. So, flow may vary. I had a cross dresser friend who used to describe what she heard in the ladies room as a “cow pissing on a flat rock.” I could never duplicate that sound, especially when sitting. But then, I almost always squat, as I don’t really like sitting on pubic toilet seats. When it’s a unisex facility, I especially won’t sit, since there are plenty of guys who won’t lift the seat, just as there are guys who won’t put it down.
Another thing to remember, especially when wearing pantyhose, is to always check to be sure you have not tucked the back of your dress. I did that once, in my fledgling days, and a woman ran to warn me just as I was going out the door into the crowded lobby of a theater. As if that wasn’t bad enough, I also had a ribbon of toilet paper stuck to my high heel. Needless to say, any attempts I’d made to not be noticed while in the restroom were completely blown as I tried to leave!”
I neglected to say I carried the feminine hygiene products way back in the day when I was younger and could have been perceived as still needing one. Plus, I wanted to be ready for the first snarky cis woman who asked me for one.
I also appreciate the dress in the pantyhose comment, as it has happened to me too. Also, the long skirts I own and specifically the two maxi dresses in my wardrobe totally intimidate me in the rest room.
Even with all these ideas, I am sure there are a couple I am missing. Of course cis women have most likely lived through all of these “Girl Code” bathroom debacles too and could add their own… like what do you do when there are no paper towels after you wash your hands.
If you have anything to add…please comment! Thanks as always for yours Connie.