Recently I received a thought provoking comment concerning binary or non binary transgender women. A subject I don’t think we have ever discussed in the long history of the Cyrsti’s Condo blog. The question was brought up by Connie:
“I’m not so much confused about Non-Binary individuals, or the portrayal of them, as I am feeling a little discounted for being a Binary Trans Woman. It’s as though the media have highlighted enough of the transgender women , like Lavern Cox – or even Caitlyn Jenner – and now it’s on to the trans du jour of non-binary. Just when I was feeling comfortable living my “authentic self,” and knowing that there were enough people in the world who
had some degree of understanding and acceptance for me, the relatively new concept of “Non-Binary” changes the game. Most people still think along binary lines, and it is much easier, I think, for them to look at me and have some idea, at least, of how I may fit in. Of course, I try to leave as little ambiguity for my gender expression as possible. However, can I expect that I won’t even be mis-gendered, when there are those who are presenting and expressing one gender, while still demanding that they be referenced as another (or neither….or both)?
I don’t know if I’m being pushed out of the transgender umbrella or crowded into the middle of it, these days.”
It’s probably just me but I think most of the “non binary” emphasis is a more recent phenomenon brought up by the younger segment of the transgender community. It’s just an easier way to say we don’t fit.
However, in my travels, I have encountered more and more individuals who didn’t fit a gender binary. I find it encouraging the people I have known (even on a limited basis) have had the courage to live a life somewhere outside the lines of the traditional gender binaries.
As for me, my authentic self is much like Connie’s. I live as a binary woman. I do my best to present to the world as one and expect to be treated with respect as one.
I also think we are not being pushed out from under the transgender umbrella, we just need a bigger umbrella and that is not all bad!