As I read this post, it was interesting to me, it happened all the way back in 2014. The last time I was really “gender slurred”:
“Perhaps you remember the experience I passed along from the huge lesbian dance my partner Liz and I went to recently. The evening provided me with one of the rare moments when someone sought went out of her way to gender slur me. Liz learned about the dance from a semi regional lesbian group around Cincinnati who has many events. One of which is being part of a woman’s interest writer’s group. The group is meeting next weekend and Liz wanted to know if I wanted to go.
I went to the site and before I could even check the event out further, I couldn’t until I was accepted as a member of this lesbian group. At that moment, I figured that wasn’t happening…especially I believed gender slur bitch was one of the “lead dogs.” As I normally do, I thought what the hell and applied anyway. My answer came back quickly REJECTED! I went through the usual emotions of being hurt – then mad-then calmed down and noticed how I could contact them-and I did.
I simply said, my application was based upon my lesbian partner’s preference and my only real “need” was to be with her. I couldn’t care less what the rest of the group thought about me but it was wrong for whomever it was to seek me out and trash me. I wasn’t “crashing the party” I paid my 15$ and was there with my lesbian partner who wanted me there. My final question was, I guess I would not be “allowed” or welcome to accompany her to future events.
Another answer came almost immediately from a person who threw the “group leader” under the bus and said it wasn’t up to her to reject me (the lead dog did) but most certainly I would be welcome in the future.
Finally, Liz was going to pull her membership immediately, which I said don’t do it. I will explain- and this morning, mysteriously , I began to get the groups emails.
Certainly, I don’t have a huge ego stake in this deal but I do have a stake with a trans woman being rejected and gender slurred in a group. It’s their little club and who ever they want to keep out is their business but just don’t hide behind some cheap gender slurs or passive aggressive BS. So I told Liz, any event she sees and wants to go to, contact the group and see if I am “allowed” to come. Sooner more than later, one of us will get a dialogue.
In reality, this whole deal reflects on Liz more than me. Why is she (Liz) being discriminated against because of her transgender partner and how hypocritical is that?
As I said, none of this was totally unexpected to me. I figured I was venturing into a tough part of the girls’s sandbox. The whole deal begs the question-which group gay men or lesbian women are capable of hurting us the most?”
Now, I could care less. Let the bitches have their little club.